Could your spouse be cheating on you? Studies show that infidelity affects a shocking 1 out of every 3 marriages. Do you think your marriage or relationship is safe? Here are 6 signs that point to infidelity. After reading this list you may find there is some area of concern. Do not confront them, as this will only cause them to clean up their act and make it more difficult for you to catch them. Seek professional help so you can get enough proof to make your case.
1. A SUDDEN NEED FOR PRIVACY
If things the two of you used to share openly suddenly become private pay attention cause something is probably up. He/she may start password protecting computer activity. Cell phone and credit card bills may be hidden. If you ask why or attempt to find out information that used to be common knowledge between the two of you, you will be accused of snooping or trying to control your spouse. Big warning sign!
2. REGULAR WORK HABITS CHANGE
Working late, going to work at odd hours or, putting in more time than is normal on work related issues can be indications that a spouse is cheating.
3. SPENDING A LARGE AMOUNT OF TIME ON THE COMPUTER
In today’s world, with modern technology, a person looking for an affair doesn’t even have to leave their home. The ease of internet chat rooms, online dating sites and secret email accounts has caused an alarming increase in emotional affairs. If your spouse is online more than usual, hanging out in chat rooms and visiting pornographic websites then you have reason to be alarmed.
4. SECRETIVE PHONE CALLS AND MORE TIME SPENT ON THE PHONE
Emotional affairs occur primarily via the phone, especially cell phones. If you find your spouse hanging up suddenly when you enter the room or erasing the history on the cell phone and becoming defensive when asked about it, then you might want to check your phone records.
5. BEHAVIOR THAT JUST DOESN’T ADD UP
Not being where he/she was expected to be. Missing time they can’t explain. Money that isn’t accounted for. Receipts for things you don’t have. Missing clothing. Clothing that does not belong to your family. Being caught in little lies about the details of the day.
6. YOUR OWN FEARS AND SUSPICIONS
If you find yourself looking for excuses for your spouse’s behavior or trying to convince yourself that they would never cheat then that is a warning sign. Your intuition is frequently one of the best indicators that something is wrong. If you suspect your spouse might be cheating on you, do some investigating and then talk to him/her about what you’ve found. Do it in a way that is calm and courteous. Ask for honesty. Be prepared for lies. It is a sad fact that people having affairs become excellent liars. People who never told a lie before in their lives. Trust your gut instinct but get hard, cold proof also.