When you enter into a relationship, you hope it will last forever. You secretly hope you will date, get married, and grow old together. However, most relationships don’t work out that way. Unfortunately, you both realizing you are not right for each other and breaking up isn’t the worst case scenario. The worst case scenario is that a person you have given your heart to goes out and has relationships with another people behind your back.
While no one wants to be cheated on, you at least deserve to know if someone you love is not being faithful so you can end it and have a chance to find that real love. If you suspect your partner is cheating on you, there are signs. Once you know what red flags to look for, you can launch an investigation in to finding out if they are indeed seeing someone on the side.
Change in Routine
You should always be suspicious in unexplained changes in routine. It could be staying later at work or unexpected business trips. It could even be disappearing to the grocery store on weekends for more hours than it demands. Often these changes in behavior can be explained. Maybe things are going poorly at their company or they got a promotion that requires travel. However, most partners that are cheating don’t plan things out well enough for explanations.
It is natural that if you have been together for awhile, your once raucous love life falls off a little. However, if they pretty much never want to have relations anymore, chances are they are getting it elsewhere. Furthermore, distance isn’t limited to the bedroom, you can feel it throughout your entire relationship. Instead of cuddling on the couch, they want to be online all the time or instead of engaging in morning conversation over coffee, they are completely absorbed in their phone. That sort of coldness doesn’t make a healthy relationship even if they are not cheating.
Dressing up for a big meeting or for your date night is to be expected, but if your partner is making an effort to look their best to even just run errands, you have a right to be a little suspicious. The exception to this particular red flag is if they have always been diligence in their appearance. Only when they make an effort when they usually would not should this be a flag.
If you are married or already share financial accounts, if your partner is being unfaithful, the finances will show it. Seeing someone else can be costly. They might go on dates or rent hotel rooms to woo their new partner. However, you shouldn’t expect to see those charges show up. Instead, you should look for cash withdrawals.
Defense of Digital Devices
If your partner is suddenly very defensive of their phone or laptop, something not quite right is going on. If they leave the room to take a call or become quick to anger when you look over your shoulder, it is most definitely a sign that they are doing something they don’t want you to see.
Are You Seeing the Red Flags?
Often when your partner is being unfaithful, they will display more than a few of the above red flags. When this happens, you should be suspicious of what it means. If you suspect your partner is being unfaithful, it might be unwise to investigate it yourself. It should be something you leave to a private investigator. Once they discover if anything is going on, at least then you know. If you suspect your partner of being unfaithful and need to know the truth, contact us today.